Have you considered just calling the cops and having him booted out? A night in the cells would give you time to have a friend over and have the place packed and ready to go before he makes bail.

The cops around here are useless. I called them yesterday to ask what I should do, and they didn't think a dislocated wrist was serious enough. They told me to call when he did, and I quote: "serious damage."
They didn't react when someone broke into our home when we were in the living room, either. I have no faith in those people.

The ex is gone until monday, and I've talked to a couple of friends who will show up tomorrow to help me get my stuff.

Beerarse: That's wonderful! The dress is incredible, never knew about the site but then I've never shopped for wedding dresses either. I hope everything is working out well!

To all those who need it right now big *bearhug*s! There is such troubles in our little group my hope goes out for everyone.

I...can't believe that... How could someone do such a vile thing? That makes me very upset. You are right on the money. What a bastard. I really hope you get out of that situation ASAP... You don't deserve any of that.

Alice: I think everyone has already said what could be said, but I'll again emphisize it. Get someone to go with you, and stay as far away from this guy as you possibly can. The guy, like you said, is a bastard. I can't believe even the cops wouldn't do anything, given that it was, in fact, assault that he did.



I hope things get better for you, you don't deserve all this bad stuff.

What the bloody shit??? The police won't intercept in a domestic violence case? Especially against a woman???? What the bloody fuck has become of this world?

I'm sorry for the crass response, but it's my honest reaction.

Alice, I really hope life gets better and buddy boy gets thrown in jail. Bubba needs a new friend.

I agree with this. You'd think the police's priorities would be to be proactive rather than reactive. That's a mistake that novices make and it's a ridiculous one to make, especially since the mistake could cause something tragic to happen. I know to be proactive than reactive and I'm not trained by professionals to be told that it's just common sense.

That would be exactly the words I wanted to use, you're the one who had the gonads to say it thanks man. Yeah my perception is the police don't really intervene until there is actual blood spilt, which really doesn't help anyone much. I would like to see the boy have a discussion with some 1%ers instead.

Alice, that is dreadful. Police are supposed to be there to protect people, not stand by for people to get hurt. Write to the papers, and as many politicians as possible. I think the UK doesn't take domestic violence seriously enough, but at least people are campaigning for that to change. And I'm really sorry about your situation. Be proud of yourself in that you were strong enough to get out before things got really nasty. *hugs*

Things are getting better for me. My mum keeps saying that it'll soon be nothing more than a bad memory. I certainly hope she's right.

good to hear things are getting better Sapphire

I once called the firemen to ask how I could prevent a fire in a given situation and tehy told me to call back when everything's burning, they'd be more use then. So I had to find out myself how to protect myself and others. Our little project of building a hot air baloon did end up in flames, but we didn't need the firemen. I still think those people are here also to prevent, not just to find out who did it afterwards.

As much as the prevention matter is relevant, what HAS materially and demonstrably happened is an assault resulting in bodily harm. I don't know if "grievous" would be applied in that legal jurisdiction, but that shit be illegal.

This is true. Alice, I hope you get your stuff back safely. It's good that you have good friends that you can trust. Good luck with everything!

Depression is hard to fight off... I don't even know if I have the will to fight it off...

Has anyone ever felt like they're supposed to feel that certain way, that's not really good? I've had depression for a couple of years, and I feel like it's how I'm supposed to be. Or I just don't have the will to fight it off... (Or I'm just lazy, who knows?).

Just getting my feelings off my chest.

Ravenhaven that's cool. Yeah real depression doesn't just get fought off, the blues can. It is either invulnerable or rebounds if cheered up. Sometimes lifestyle, vitamins, exercise etc. works sometimes the right meds. Otherwise you'll have a mind and body all battered and broken, but with a spirit built like a brick outhouse, massive and chiseled with 24 inch biceps. Yup, astral projection of the big gun show.

Oh and feeling like that's the way it all is supposed to be? That old leviathan is most skilled at devising delusions about ourselves and the world around us, it ain't supposed to be that way. It's hard to imagine any soul should have to grow as strong as to survive this, case in point someone on the board (you know who you are) has recurrent depression which is "usually suicidal". Anyone else in the world would freak but they seem like its that they will need to mop the floor after they sweep. No insult intended just this is the strength of soul from being in battle for a long while. Hope you can use this in your fight, and to be proud of yourself.

Thanks for all the kind words. I still haven't had any luck with the police, but at least I have a safe place to stay. I'm at my friends house right now. However, I lost my computer, so I'm writing from my phone right now. R.I.P laptop.