Ha! Isn't that the truth, Nephele!

It was like that with the old crowd but since I moved in a different state and with different people, it`s like my world has been flipped upside down. I want some peace when working on something, but they don`t seem to "get" that and some have become offended and have new unkind names for me. I try to explain but it seems like some don`t want to understand and insist I change to their ways and become chatty.

Beloved Doll, I think you just described me to a tee. I'm exactly the same way, but I can get to the point of getting very aggravated if people wont let up after having already been asked politely to be left in peace if I'm really engrossed in something. I usually end up feeling guilty if someone gets offended and thinks I'm a jerk because I ask to be left alone so I can enjoy whatever it is I'm in to.
But for me I am kind of sensitive to noise. I prefer a quiet house (I don't even own a television), and usually have to sleep with ear plugs because I'm a light sleeper.

This :$ Unless I don't know you, then I'm super quiet. If I know you, though, I'm really chatty unless they specifically want to be left alone. So yeah. That's me. And the only time ultra-chatty people annoy me is when I'm trying to do something and want to be left alone. Other than that, I'm good.

Ah, I see, well when I really want to be alone, I play my music, everyone hates the music I listen to so they leave, or any attempt at conversation is brief

As an introvert, it can get very annoying sometimes to be pressured into "small talk" and then get accused of being "uppity"(the black community's word for "snob". If I had a dollar for every time I've been called that. The other non blacks around here just think I'm "weird") when I give brief responses; but here in America at least, this is a cultural thing as extrovert is one of "ideal" personality traits(like I don't already have enough strikes against me) .

Still, I honestly never understood why it's so hard for some people be silent for even just a minute. My little cousin is the perfect example; I love him to death, but God is he a motor mouth to the point of feeling the need to state the obvious.

Absolutely!

Just recently, my boyfriend`s dog was running around one of the cats that`s sitting inside a box barking and going crazy. I`m thinking "oh that`s cute, I want to film that and maybe put it on facebook so I can show my family and friends." So I get my digital camera out and start filming. Boyfriend`s dad starts talking about my bowel problems. Not an acceptable topic to go with a video of animals being cute. So I tell him that I`m filming with my camera and don`t want human audio in it. He keeps talking. I remind him again that I`m filming and need silence. When he finally stops, the animals stop doing their cute thing. A great shot has been ruined because somebody won`t stop talking. -_- I know he was trying to help me out with a health problem but he could have waited like 2 minutes as my problems aren`t going to explode out of control in that time period. But nope! 2 minutes of silence was impossible.

My boyfriend told me that the next time this happens, I should tell his dad "man, you sure know how to ruin a wet dream."

Nonetheless, talkative people need to learn that there are appropriate times for talking and there are times to be silent. Such as being asked to stop talking while I`m trying to film something.

It irritates me the most when I am in a classroom with them and I am trying my best to learn and they just won't shut up and keep distracting the whole class and teacher. I can't say I enjoy being held accountable for another person's mouth. I wouldn't mind if people were yakky if the subject they were actually talking about was interesting in the least. If you heard someone trying to talk about the same thing for a straight hour, it will become annoying. Personally, I don't hang out with much extroverts who yak the day away.

I'm a former introvert who discovered one day that I wasn't happy with solitude and silence anymore. A lot of it had to do with my childhood traumas, but I'm not a full blown extrovert. My wife is, however, and likes to talk till she's blue in the face.

I don't believe in such a thing, really, as a 'former' introvert or extrovert. People generally confuse the terms as to where their social skills center: example: If you like people you are an extravert, if you like solitude then you an an introvert. This is a common misconception.

The reality is that an extravert gathers energy from people, while introverts gather energy by being alone. Basically- it is the way you fill up your personal gas tank, so to speak. If being around people makes you feel renewed and refreshed- you are an extrovert. If you need peace and solitude to feel renewed and refreshed- you are an introvert.

Being either one does necessarily mean that you either hate or love society or solitude. There are social introverts and secluded extroverts, it really depends on the person- it is what energizes the person most which creates the term. At least, this is what my psychology classes have taught me.

^ Absolute truth. Sometimes it`s hard getting people to understand how this works and oddly enough it tends to be the extroverts struggle the most (if not outright refuse to try) in understanding. You can`t learn anything if your mouth is busy flapping, I always say. That`s probably why my boyfriend`s dad didn`t "hear" me when I asked him to be quiet for my filming: too busy talking to let his ears work. =P

This is why I spend the majority of my time in my own room--not many people bother me there. Whenever I'm in public and want to write, read or whatever, someone always, always comes up to me and starts yakking away. Most of the time it's family or close friends, but it's not any less annoying. I feel like saying, "hello, do you see the book in my hands? Yeah, this one, I'm not in the talking mood right now, thank you!" I always chicken out though and end up sitting through some boring conversation. By the time they're done I'm usually ready to leave. It's even worse when I'm in the car and I'm tired. I'm trying to just relax or maybe catch a nap, but no, my mom or whoever's driving--since I don't--have to talk my ear off until we reach our destination.

I just wish people would be more observant--me included.

I can be chatty, but usually I'm only that way around people I'm close to. Most of the time I just sit away from everyone else; I'm just that way.

My roommate used to sing disney songs until 2 am. I'd take too much talking any day of the week over that.

I still have issues that if I try to be in my collection room/office, boyfriend's dad just walks over and starts talking about random stuff. I try ignore him and continue to work but constantly hearing "wanna go to Walmart?" "My ex-wife is trying to screw me over" a thousand times makes it really hard to concentrate on my work. I moved to being back upstairs for peace. A year and a half and he doesn't get it. XD

I can certainly relate to wanting silence more often than not; I currently live with two relatives that both have no concept of a conversation with a reasonable length. This mostly has to do with the fact that they are not terribly aware of their surroundings, so for example they insist on talking to the boyfriend or myself while it is obvious we're involved in something and that they're interrupting.

Although, now that I consider it for a bit, I can tolerate chattiness to a larger degree than out-and-out rudeness, such as barging into a room without knocking, or butting into a conversation in progress without saying "Excuse me..." Especially if you call them out on it and they don't apologize either (these aforementioned relatives are notorious for that). A lot of people talking in a room at once I have a hard time handling as well, since by default I'm either drawing, reading or thinking about something, which a lot of noise intrudes on. I tend to retreat to my personal space if it gets too bad, though.

Despite me generally being content to be left alone, sometimes I feel the need to go out in public to be around with others for a while; after a few hours I've filled my quota for "people noise" and hightail it out of there, ha!